Friday, April 26, 2013

Draw Me a Map

My honey and I love listening to Dierks Bentley. We love country music, and for the extent of our relationship have bonded of him playing guitar while I sing along, or he serenades me. The whole "Up on the Ridge" album is so good and we have sung it to one another for years..  One song we love is "Draw me a Map"- about getting disconnected from the relationship, and asking your better half to draw you a map that leads you back to your better half.

Draw me a map that leads me back to you
I don't know where to go, please tell me what to do
Help me to find the road you're on
I just need directions home
Draw me a map that leads me back to you
You're my destiny and destination
Understand my desperation
You're the only place I wanna be
So get us back to you and me

As I mentioned before, we have been going to pre-marital counseling with our church.  Last night was our last of four sessions, so we are officially approved by the church to be married (wahoo!).  We did an interesting activity I wanted to share with y'all.  

It was called Love Maps, and you answered questions about your partner and how well you know him or her/ how equal you are in the relationship.  How well can you answer these?  It was interested how Chris and I compared, and I think you'll find it interesting to try them with your significant other too!

(they are all true or false questions, so I'm not going to write true/false next to them)

  1. I can name my partner's best friends.
  2. I can tell you what stresses my partner is currently facing.
  3. I know the names of some of the people who are currently irritation my partner.
  4. I can tell you some of my partner's life dreams.
  5. I am very familiar with my partner's religious beliefs and ideas.
  6. I can tell you about my partner's basic philosophy of life. 
  7. I can list the relatives my partner likes the least (we had fun with this one ;)  )
  8. I know my partner's favorite music.
  9. I can list my partner's three favorite movies.
  10. My spouse is familiar with my current stresses.
  11. I know the three most special times in my partner's life.
  12. I can tell you the most stressful thing that happened to my partner as a child.  
  13. I can list my partner's major aspirations and hopes in life.
  14. I know my partner's major current worries.
  15. My spouse knows who my friends are.
  16. I know what my partner would do if he or she suddenly won the lottery.
  17. I can tell you in detail my first impressions of my partner.
  18. Periodically I ask my partner about his or her world right now.
  19. I feel that my partner knows me pretty well.
  20. My spouse is familiar with my hopes and aspirations.
Not only can you answer these- it's easy to agree with what your partner says  your answer would be "oh you're right, I do kinda like that song by Katy Perry" but what was your first instinct of a response?  Write down your responses both for yourself and for your partner- and then compare responses and see how closely aligned you were!  It's fun to see how closely they compared- or how you can get to know one another better! 

1 comment:

  1. How ironic! My husband and I visited a church yesterday and the pastor referenced many of these same questions in his sermon on the last chapter of Song of Solomon. Since I am hearing about them twice, maybe there is something I need to attend to!